Who would WANT to be Kate Middleton?
By Cate Washburn [Competition Winner]
I know … I know … who wouldn’t want to be Kate Middleton right now? She has the support of a successful family, is attractive and stylish, and happens to be dating a Prince who is the future King of England?
What isn’t there to like about this package? Well, let’s think a bit deeper here. There are things that we see in her life, as well as the many things that we don’t.
Every day she is tracked by the paparazzi. She certainly couldn’t go outside in her bathrobe to get the paper. You probably did that this morning with a cup of coffee in hand. No more shopping in stores or meeting friends for lunch without discomfort. How about those occasional bad days? No, this wouldn’t be allowed for her. She mustn’t have a frown in public. Certainly, she couldn’t get upset with a clerk for making a mistake with an order. Well, maybe parking tickets don’t count. Of course, it would be expected that she would have an occasional mistake which would then be broadcast in all of the newspapers. These are the easy things.
How many of you have a mother-in-law that is demanding and difficult? Now, think if she was Queen, you weren’t a Royal, and you were hoping for a proposal from her grandson? There certainly are a lot of expectations for a person in her position. It is almost as if she would be moving to a new country and doesn’t speak the language. She is not used to the Royal protocol and the discipline it requires. Any missteps would be noticed and scrutinized. Consider the ramifications within the Royal household for mistakes or disagreements. The Countess of Wessex might be able to provide Kate some good advice on this matter. These would be the things we wouldn’t see, but bound to take their toll on her happiness.
Let’s face it, the best time for Kate is right now. The pending engagement and upcoming nuptials would certainly seem to be an exciting time for her. It certainly is for us! My concern is what events would occur in her future. It will be difficult for her to find Royal allies to trust. Their alliance will be to the Queen, the Prince of Wales, and Prince William. She can only rely that her Prince will be true and shepherd her through this new lifestyle and that the visions of tiaras dancing in her head will be enough to keep her rested at night.
Congrats Cate!! I enjoyed your post. It is a very exciting time for Kate now, I hope a group of people can rally around her to avoid the isolating feeling that Diana described. She definately has a strong support unit with her family. I hope if the engagement comes, someone within the Royal Household can show her the ins and outs. Sophie Wessex was a great choice of mentor.
By Pri on March 26th, 2007 at 2:53 pm
Thanks Pri! This was fun. I’m looking forward to your post tomorrow! I thought about the content for this post based on Kate’s own comments about how “He is lucky to have me”. I considered all of the strings that are attached to Prince William and how difficult life could be for someone in her position. In some ways she is right; He is lucky to have her. There are many people that would not want to have that level of public service required as part of a personal commitment.
By Cate on March 26th, 2007 at 7:33 pm
You are right he is lucky to have her, but unfortunately it seems that she doesn’t make him happy. I’ve just seen an article called “Wills and the brazilian girl” on the Sun. His face looks even more sad than what I have seen when they were at Cheltenham.
Yesterday it was Lisa Agar on the Daily Mail, and some hiliarious pictures of drunken Harry. Now that begins to be pitiful. Since their father doesn’t care about his sons’ health and happiness, do they have some nice friends who would like to help them?
Hey congrats Cate
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 8:24 am
Well, William invited this girl back to his barracks at Bovinton. However, you have to read the small print to spot that he also invited her boyfriend too and they had a quiet drink in the officers’ mess. When William dozed off in his chair, they left. Nothing for Kate to worry about there.
As for Harry — he’s seeing what’s happening in Iraq (15 British service personnel captured and accused of spying by the Iranians) and it’s not surprising he prefers oblivion occasionally.
By John on March 27th, 2007 at 10:56 am
Oh William does what he wants, as long as he is not engaged yet, thats not a problem to me. I’m just bored to read the same silly stories and see the same photos. I’m bored to hear “let them alone” etc, everybody let them alone except the press, and look at the result. It would be ok if they were just celebrities, but they are not and they are turning themselves into clowns. They have become flesh for photos and nothing else. I feel sorry for William, so young and so sad-looking.
As for Harry, yes he is showing a great behavior while 15 of his countrymen are being held hostage in Iran. His behavior should embarass Britain. I thought he wanted to go to war for his country, but it seems that the only thing he wants is to avoid the preparations of his mother’s commemoration as being far away from them.
It was funny to see them partying before. I thought they have some fun at least but it seems they haven’t. Now it turns the British Monarchy as a joke.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 11:40 am
The articles I’ve read said William invited Lisa back to the barracks, it just said she has a boyfriend, not that he was there(but William has a girlfriend too, we know) and then there are clear front page photos of William’s hand on the chest of another girl he was partying with.
PRINCE William took a blonde back to his barracks after dancing with her in a club.
Lisa Agar, 19, met the royal at Elements in Bournemouth, Dorset, where he downed sambuca and Stella.
It was Wills’ first night off since starting a tank commander course.
His girlfriend Kate Middleton was not there.
Six-footer Lisa, who has a boyfriend, said: “He was touchy-feely and quite p****d. He was not a shy boy and didn’t talk about Kate.â€
Lisa, who took pictures of her and Wills on her mobile, went to the officers’ mess at Bovington Camp.
THE SUN
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 2:33 pm
Congratulations, Cate! Good article and I enjoyed reading it. I just read the articles regarding Prince William and Prince Harry at the clubs. I do not trust the media at any time because their agenda is to make money on stories, but I do agree that the frequency of the instances where the young Princes are seen evidently intoxicated in public creates an unfortunate impression in the minds of their subjects in Britain. I don’t think it is healthy to consume so much alcohol on what appears to be a regular basis. Let us hope that this is merely a phase, although heavy party drinking seems to be the entertainment of choice for the Princes’ generation in both Britain and in America.
By Gigi on March 27th, 2007 at 3:17 pm
Prince and the Brazilian babe
By JAMIE PYATT
March 27, 2007
STUNNING student Ana Ferreira told last night of the moment she was groped by Prince William.
The 18-year-old recalled: “I was a little bit drunk myself but felt something brush my breast.
“I thought it couldn’t be the future king — but now I’ve seen the picture it’s no wonder he has a smile on his face! He has big manly hands and certainly knows what to do with them.â€
Ana, studying INTERNATIONAL RELATIONS, went to Elements nightclub in Bournemouth, Dorset, to party to Latin tunes.
Wills, 24, was downing pints of Stella and shots of sambuca with Household Cavalry pals on his first night off since starting a tank commander course at Bovington, Dorset.
(Well there are photos too.
I just don’t think William looks like a young man ready for engagement or marriage to anyone yet.)
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 3:55 pm
… and she was accompanied to the barracks by a male friend.
DAILY MAIL
By John on March 27th, 2007 at 4:08 pm
A male friend could have been anyone, doesn’t say it was “her” boyfriend. Still William taking a girl to his barracks , after a night out is not good for his relationship, no matter how it’s viewed. Doesn’t sound like he’s ready for a marriage yet. In my opinion.
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 4:31 pm
The material point is that the girl did not go back to Prince William’s barracks with him by herself. A male friend accompanied her. That, to my mind, amounts to fellowship, nothing else.
By Gigi on March 27th, 2007 at 4:50 pm
Mandy, the problem is not these girls who obviously enjoy the publicity they can make nor the articles. Then you don’t need to re-write newspapers’ articles to prove that William is nor ready for a marriage yet.
What matters are the photos, and not the articles, because everyone can write what they want. The photos don’t show happy young men. And as long as they seem unhappy I don’t want them to get married. Whatever the girl was accompagned or not, what kind of man invite a stranger in his barracks, mostly an heir of the Throne, and then tell her, goodbye I have to go to bed. I doubt they spent the night at talking or at playing monopoly
Strange behavior
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 5:33 pm
William sounds like he’s out vey much enjoying the ladies when he feels like it and it doesn’t sound like a guy ready for an engagement or marriage, taking a girl back to his barracks, even if a friend was there. Two days of photos and stories of William with other women , one he had a hand on her chest area, he seems to enjoy his nights out away from his girlfriend that’s for sure. This time the press had a cover photo.
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 5:39 pm
I agree Lily, sometimes when I look at photos of the Princes, they have a look of sadness, like they are still searching for something outside of themselves. They are young and still learning their way perhaps. I like the Princes, I just hope they mature and know themselves before they make serious decisions concerning committment and other areas of their lives.
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 5:45 pm
Ha ha chest area.. you are right, you can’t write the word breasts because we can’t see any!
Well it seems that you are appeased when you see him with other women than Kate, don’t you?
I would prefer him doing what he wants as long as he has a smile on his face and stops drinking like an old drunkard at least. He is worse than Bukowski.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 6:03 pm
Exactly Mandy.
But I’m not sure they are searching for something outside of themselves. At the opposite, I think they seem to forget something. Thats why alcohol maybe. What a waste. There are millions of people who would like them, and they look unhappy.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 6:07 pm
Millions of people who wouls like to BE them…. sorry…
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 6:09 pm
Millions of people who woulD like to be them of course… what is happening to my fingers. Hope this one will be correct
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 6:11 pm
Do you think William is trying to be like normal guys out there, just having fun on a night out? It is so different for them they have to realise because, they are representing the Throne of England, no matter how young they are. I like them, but they should really be careful, with these club outtings.
By mandy on March 27th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
No I don’t think William is trying to be like normal guy. Because you are not normal when you are a British royal
Someone should tell him it because he seems to forget it 
And I don’t think that the average normal guy doesn’t spend all this time at drinking in clubs, except DJs and bouncers
They should be careful especially with the medias. The most important thing is their image, they have to be credible. Look at the press, one day Harry is like a brave hero who is going to a stupid war, and then he is like a funny drunken attraction. At least the photos were hiliarious. But it’s also very sad.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 6:23 pm
If the young Princes are sad, and they may indeed be sad, it may be that they feel there is something wanting in their lives. I think it would be daunting to always live life in a fishbowl, surrounding by courtiers who have agendas. In the case of the young Princes’, they have not had the comforting insulation of a close family life, because Princess Diana is dead and Charles is self-absorbed. However there is still the very great possibility that Prince William and Prince Harry are neither sad nor suffering a lack of nurturing, but are simply enjoying the glossy lifestyles and social lives that is not unusual for two very wealthy young men who are also members of the Royal Family. As yet, Prince Harry and Prince William are unmarried. Soon enough, Prince Harry leaves for Iraq and the dangers of military service in the forward area of a war zone. As Heir Presumptive, Prince William must continue to prepare for his future role as Prince of Wales and King. These days of carefree indulgence may be the last the Princes can enjoy before the unrelenting restrictions of duty dominate their lives. Let them be merry while they may.
By Gigi on March 27th, 2007 at 7:50 pm
Will and Harry are not the only characters who are living as if they were in a fishbowl. Have you ever saw Peter, Zara, Eugenie and Beatrice, fighting, kissing strangers or being drunk? No we can’t, because all have their 2 parents alive and seem to have some people who look after them. I don’t think the courtiers and the agenda are what make them sad, otherwise the Queen would be mad and would act like a clown or a corgi.
I’m not blaming them, I just feel worry about them. There is a difference between enjoying a glossy nightlife lifestyle and destroy yourself with alcohol. These two can go in any club they want across the world, and look what they are doing, always going in the same clubs, while they know they will be taken by photographs outside. Perhaps it is like a desperate call. The last time I have seen Harry smiling was last July at a polo match. As for William errr, I even don’t remember… and I don’t see him preparing his future role… how he could prepare it anyway.
If you were living in a kingdom, you would like to see your princes acting like Will and Harry have done since last week?
I wonder why I feel worry about them, there are millions of people who are living a worse condition, and I have spent the evening in front of my computer, I have sunburns on my cheeks.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 27th, 2007 at 8:56 pm
The interest for Peter Zara Beatrice and Eugenie is NOTHING compared to interest in Diana’s sons.
William is a young dude in his 20s dating a lovely young woman that I believe he will marry. William likes to get his party on. Nothing wrong with that. He still loves Kate bottom line.
By Positive on March 28th, 2007 at 1:20 am
Btw, Congratulations Cate!!! Well done!
By Positive on March 28th, 2007 at 1:21 am
Oh I forgot he was in his 20s, thanks
If Peter or Zara or Beatrice would spent so much time in clubs and partying, there would be a huge interest in them too. But they don’t, then there is nothing to compare. William is not constrained to drink so much and pose for mobile photos with strangers girls. Nobody has constrained Harry to drink within reason last Saturday. Partying is not a problem. They are wasting their potentials. Thats not what I call being a Royal. If they want to be alone, then they know what to do.
And whats the link with Kate? She is not everything.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 28th, 2007 at 12:02 pm
Congratulations Cate! Your post was insightful and thought-provoking, and I enjoyed reading it. I think you summed up Kate’s situation nicely.
By mapleleaf on March 28th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Thank you Positive and Mapleleaf! : )
By Cate on March 31st, 2007 at 2:21 am
Yes it’s the 21st century… and I think women should give mutual aide instead of insulting themselves on internet because of a rich prince who doesn’t give a damn about us. I hope your comment will be deleted.
Get a life. If what you see is annoying then don’t waste your time at posting comments about her on internet. You seem to be one of those folks who only tries to be provoking. As far I have seen I never saw Kate be what you are calling a whore. You can call whores the girls who trie to make money with their fascinating stories about their fantastic 3 minutes of dance with Wills.
And suddenly it seems that some Kate hard haters have landed on this site. I even wonder if all these people are one and only people actually. Too sudden to be true. Pathetic.
By Lilyfromfrance on March 31st, 2007 at 9:57 pm
I agree with you, Lily from France. It also occurred to me that the insulting Kate-haters might be the same person. Whoever they are, I hope they go post their negativity elsewhere because their slanderous comments have no place here.
By Gigi on April 1st, 2007 at 8:48 pm
It’s been announced today that they’ve split up. I hope they’re both ok.
By Michelle on April 14th, 2007 at 11:08 am
I still want to be Kate Middleton! She has a lot of qualities, which I’d like to have. I’d love to meet her and ask her opinions on things and how she’d act if faced with them.
I certainly wouldn’t be able to me go out in public after being dumped and still give a big, shining smile. Let alone if the whole world knew! I would also love to be “down to earth” and just generally confident and positive like Kate appears to be.
Of course, having a Prince as your boyfriend, lots and lots of money, taking lots of luxurious holidays abroad, having fans and not having to work F/T or super hard yet still being paid a fortune and given any job you desire are also big ‘I want’ factors. And oh to be a Princess!!!
By Natasha England on August 28th, 2007 at 9:01 pm